A couple of weeks ago, my lovely friend Diane Mizota invited me to a lunch with an amazing group of writers and bloggers. We sat on her back patio on a picturesque Los Angeles afternoon and chatted about all things writing, blogging, family, and ice cream. Because, seriously? Diane brought in the owner of Nitropod - he makes organic flash frozen ice cream. It’s insane. In a good way. You’ll just have to trust me on this one.
Anyway, the real reason Diane brought us all together was to screen the trailer for an amazing kickstarter campaign called, “Pushing Motherhood”.
“Pushing Motherhood” is the story of two best friends who have quite literally been through absolutely everything together (careers, love, marriage, divorce, love again), including infertility. The film follows Sybil, 38, and Linda, 45, as they attempt to embark on motherhood. And while Sybil was lucky enough to bring a healthy baby boy into the world and is now trying for a second, Linda has not been so lucky.
If you’ve spent any time here, you know that I’ve struggled. You also know that even though I’m 99% sure that my family is complete, that 1% still wakes me from a deep sleep, causing tears to pour down my cheeks as I will myself to feel grateful for what I have: My children and my life.
You also know that there isn’t anything easy about infertility, and that blame is a useless strategy.
Listening to Linda talk about her struggle as she fought back tears brought so many emotions about my own struggle. I am one of the lucky ones. This is what I repeat every time that 1% percent creeps in. I am one of the lucky ones. But I remember the pain. I remember the longing. I remember the appointments, the losses, and the anxiety. I remember every single second of what began to feel like lost years.
Here’s something you don’t know about me: I promised myself that when I got to the other side, I would find a way to help alleviate the isolation that STILL surrounds infertility. And so I started to write. I filled page after page after page with every little thing…all of the things that are left unsaid. I signed with a literary agent. I revised and revised and revised until my eyes nearly popped out. And then my proposal was out of my hands. Editor after editor came back with the same reply: Incredible story. Not big enough of a topic. We don’t think we can sell enough copies.
I was heartbroken. Not because I needed to sell just any book, but because I wanted to do this for all of you. For those of you struggling now, and for those of you yet to find your way here.
Not big enough. It’s hard to believe, isn’t it?
So as I sat and watched this trailer, tears streaming down my face, I was struck by a renewed energy. The book didn’t sell, but this documentary needs to get made. We need to shout from the rooftops to get more support, more coverage for treatment, and more people talking. We need to break down these walls right now!
And you can help…
Sybil and Linda started a Kickstarter campaign to raise the necessary funds to cover the cost of post production, music, and various other things that documentaries need. Watch the trailer. Pledge whatever you can. They have seven days left – this documentary has the potential to make a huge difference for everyone struggling with infertility. And please, pretty please, share this information. Let’s kickstart this!
Thank you so much for watching…