Infertility is a disease.
Infertility doesn’t discriminate.
Infertility doesn’t care where you live, how much money you make, what you look like, where you came from, or what kind of car you drive.
Infertility might hit you a little harder if you are over 35, but it can still get you when you’re 25…so infertility doesn’t really care about age either.
Infertility isn’t political. It doesn’t care how you vote. And you can’t vote to make it go away.
Infertility is not even a little bit religious. It will find you if you’re Jewish, it will find you if you’re Catholic, it will find you no matter your religious choice…it will even find you if you choose no religion at all.
Infertility is not religious. When I hear a story about a women who was fired from her teaching position at a Catholic school, a job she held for seven years, because she used IVF to finally start her family with her husband, it makes my blood boil.
No one chooses infertility. No one expects to be infertile. No one chooses IVF…unless they have no other choice.
Infertility is a disease…a disease that is sometimes treatable. When I hear about a woman who was in the fight of her life to save her twins (18 weeks gestation) but was repeatedly told to terminate (despite the fact that there were no signs of infection but there were signs of life) by the very doctors who were supposed to help her, it makes my blood boil a little more. Refusing bed rest to a patient in need is just unacceptable. She lost her babies on May 3, 2012 at 19 weeks and 4 days. Her heart is broken.
Perhaps her doctors knew what the outcome would be, but she and her husband chose to fight. They chose to try every little thing to bring their babies into this world. They didn’t deserve to be bullied by doctors and nurses who wanted to make choices on their behalf.
Infertility affects everyone. When 1 in 8 couples are struggling with infertility, the fact is that most people know someone affected by this silent and emotionally devastating disease.
Infertility affects mothers and fathers, brothers, sisters, children, co-workers, and friends. Infertility reaches far beyond the couple undergoing treatment.
We don’t choose infertility…infertility chooses us.
Please stand by us. Please reach out to us when we are down and listen when we need to talk. Please remember that we didn’t make this choice, and we are suffering in more ways than one. Please be kind, but not silent.
Enough with the silence.
Infertility is a disease. It’s time to start treating it as such.