Today on “Share Your Story”, Elizabeth reveals the pain of fighting secondary infertility. Again. Infertility, in all of its forms, is devastating. While I know the pain of aching for the first, I also know the difficulty of struggling for another. Please show Elizabeth some support as she shares her story today…
Share Your Story: Elizabeth
May 14, 2012 by Katie Hurley
My oldest son turns 5 in just a few days….so hard to believe.
When we decided we were ready to start a family, we both thought it would only take a few months. Nope, got pregnant with my first baby boy on the 1st try….we were shocked!
I was almost 28 at the time.
I wasn’t quite ready to give my body up again that quickly, so we didn’t start trying again until he was 19 months or so. It happened so fast the first time, so my husband had some good swimmers, right? Not so much. That year was so hard – not only was I dealing with back issues and pain but I also had to take a couple months off from “trying” to have surgery and recover. I felt like I was throwing those months away.
About 9 months after we started trying for baby #2 with no success, a friend told me about her chiropractor friend who was just starting up her own business. She specialized in allergy clearings and women’s fertility, helping women conceive through acupuncture. I thought why not? I read a little about success rates with conceiving while doing acupuncture. It was expensive so I decided to go against the recommended weekly visit and go every other week. Well, after 3 more months of getting acupuncture every other week and I still wasn’t pregnant, and we had reached the 1 year mark, I decided to start going weekly.
Low and behold, the month I started going weekly, I got pregnant and 9 months later, delivered my 2nd baby boy in September, 2010. I am convinced that weekly acupuncture treatment is what helped me get pregnant.
Now, it’s been 9 months of trying for baby #3, and still nothing….again. We started trying 1st chance we could post baby #2, when he was 10 months, because we knew how long it took for him. My husband and I would like to try for a girl, but i’ve also always wanted 3 kids. I don’t have an appointment with my OB for another month but at that visit I will be asking her what she thinks. It’s very frustrating when I do temperature charting, and use a fertility monitor.
What could be so hard when the monitor tells you every month which day to, well, you know! Is it my diet? Not enough exercise? Has using my laptop on my lap every night done damage to my eggs? You can’t help but question everything. I’m always just asking WHY? And many months I feel alone because I feel like my husband’s opinion is a 3rd would just be a nice to have, so he doesn’t seem as upset each month when it doesn’t happen.
In the meantime, I just keep praying God will answer my prayers!
Thank you, Elizabeth. I know there are many others out there struggling with secondary infertility. Hopefully this story will help them feel a little less alone.